Mourning thread.

[antdad]

Jesus, what tragic day...one of my uncles died this morning four days after my auntie (his wife) died last Wednesday. Him from Covid in hospital and her from Parkinsons, they were both in their eighties and poorly but still a desperate shock for the immediate family.

Just a reminder to give whoever you need to a call or a visit and bury the hatchet because you never know when you'll see them next. RIP

[Carlos J]

Terrible news for your family, ant.

But wise words as well.

[antdad]

Tnks CJ, was very sad and had a bit of a cry this morning thinking that another brother had gone. Chances are he may have passed anyway but Covid probably knocked him off coupled with a bit of hospital mismanagement according to a daughter. You'll know but was slightly surprised Covid was still an issue.

[Rowntree]

As we get older, these things happen more often. I've lost a few people close to me over the past 2-3 years, most recently an aunt just a couple of weeks ago who had severe dementia and then just to rub it in, aggressive cancer which took her very quickly. The only comfort I get from this is that people are no longer suffering. My condolences to you and yours, Ant.

[antdad]

Tnks, yes was a blessing the aunt went when she did as Parkinsons is such a miserable disease and there was nothing left of her. As is often the case with long term partners the surviving other probably decides to give up fighting a little more readily.

[lambrini]

Jesus, what tragic day...one of my uncles died this morning four days after my auntie (his wife) died last Wednesday. Him from Covid in hospital and her from Parkinsons, they were both in their eighties and poorly but still a desperate shock for the immediate family.

Just a reminder to give whoever you need to a call or a visit and bury the hatchet because you never know when you'll see them next. RIP

Oh, Ant, I'm so sorry, mate. You are right about grievances, many of which seem trivial in contrast to the fragility of life. Honestly, though, I've tried with some family members but they're not interested. Call them and they don't answer. Message them to ask how they're doing and I receive few responses albeit 'last seen yesterday at 17:52' or stiff replies with no inquiry. Sad.

[Sid Pervcat]

Condolences Ant-O

[antdad]

Tnks Lambo & Sid, yes I'd given up trying long ago...the irony in this case is the one now surviving uncle had not really spoken to the other (just deceased) in twenty or so years over his percieved slighting during another brother's (my father) death. Sensless stuff in the grand scheme of things but they always were petty, just a shame they'll never now make their peace.

[Carlos J]

Tnks CJ, was very sad and had a bit of a cry this morning thinking that another brother had gone. Chances are he may have passed anyway but Covid probably knocked him off coupled with a bit of hospital mismanagement according to a daughter. You'll know but was slightly surprised Covid was still an issue.

Yep, one place I work had 8 Covid cases last month and two deaths from it.

Tnks Lambo & Sid, yes I'd given up trying long ago...the irony in this case is the one now surviving uncle had not really spoken to the other (just deceased) in twenty or so years over his percieved slighting during another brother's (my father) death. Sensless stuff in the grand scheme of things but they always were petty, just a shame they'll never now make their peace.

And yep, see a lot of families with conflicts over something trivial but by then often too late. Thankfully, have good relations with all my family, but as Lambrini says, sometimes you can only do so much and if it is not reciprocated, maybe not a consolation, at least you know you have tried.

[lambrini]

Tnks Lambo & Sid, yes I'd given up trying long ago...the irony in this case is the one now surviving uncle had not really spoken to the other (just deceased) in twenty or so years over his percieved slighting during another brother's (my father) death. Sensless stuff in the grand scheme of things but they always were petty, just a shame they'll never now make their peace.

It's heartbreaking, I know, Ant. My siblings haven't seen my parents for about 5 years. It's too private and complicated to discuss on here, but the situation hurts my parents deeply. As Rowntree says, death looms as we get older and anything could happen. So, so sad.


O is there no frowning of these wrinkles, ranked wrinkles deep,

Down? No waving off of these most mournful messengers, still messengers, sad and stealing messengers of grey?

No there's none, there's none, O no there's none,

Nor can you long be, what you now are, called fair,

Do what you may do, what, do what you may,

And wisdom is early to despair

[subsub]

Sorry to hear your news, ant-o

[Vespa]

Have an Internet hug. Best wishes.

[antdad]

Tnks Sub & Vespa...tbh I wasn't thaaat close to them but it was my father's brother so another one gone and as mentioned earlier not exactly unexpected at those ages. I'm sadest not for my own loss but for the kids and grandkids who have lost both in very quick succession while also highlighting the vulnerability of one's own folks or in my case one surviving parent who is of the same generation.

I also find writing about it fairly cathartic in terms of formulating my own thoughts and feelings so thanks to all for their best wishes and indulgence.

[kancutlawns]

Jesus, what tragic day...one of my uncles died this morning four days after my auntie (his wife) died last Wednesday. Him from Covid in hospital and her from Parkinsons, they were both in their eighties and poorly but still a desperate shock for the immediate family.

Just a reminder to give whoever you need to a call or a visit and bury the hatchet because you never know when you'll see them next. RIP

Very sorry to hear this Ant.

About burying the hatchet, not sure I agree. The other party may go onto live twenty years after you and you'd feel a plonker in that case and have they'd have the last laugh that you backed down.

I heard today that from a family member that her brother in law died last week when hiking on a hazardous peak. He left his wife and eight year daughter behind.

Lost both my parents in their late 70s. That sort of age as with your relatives is OK as I see it as they were able to live life to full and had what I would term as a full life. It's when someone dies in their 20s, all the way up to their 50s that upsets me. Seen a fair number of friends and relatives who have gone in that age range and that really is gutting.

[antdad]

Yeah fair enough Lawns completely valid, I lost my dad when in his sixties and mum is now nearly ninety and hanging on. It's more the timing of said events that was disturbing rather than the events themselves. I didn't care to mention my aunt dying last week nor would I as it was expected but to see them both pop off within days of each other was surprsingly quite difficult albeit for a brief time.

It's more a sadness directed towards those more deeply affected than me irrespective of their ages and life lived and a refreshment of the sadness of my dad's own passing twenty odd years ago by his own brother passing now.

Despite the title of the thread I wasn't particularly fishing for sympathy although I thank those that offered it, I just thought it was quite an interesting but tragic tale and I appreciate you may not have read the whole thread where I elaborate on the nature of the hatchet but it wasn't mine.