I'd like to think it more a human thing than a game of one-upmanship, kancut. As said, not in that situation so can only speculate on what I would do.kancutlawns wrote: ↑Mon Mar 20, 2023 12:04 pmVery sorry to hear this Ant.antdad wrote: ↑Mon Mar 20, 2023 12:11 am Jesus, what tragic day...one of my uncles died this morning four days after my auntie (his wife) died last Wednesday. Him from Covid in hospital and her from Parkinsons, they were both in their eighties and poorly but still a desperate shock for the immediate family.
Just a reminder to give whoever you need to a call or a visit and bury the hatchet because you never know when you'll see them next. RIP
About burying the hatchet, not sure I agree. The other party may go onto live twenty years after you and you'd feel a plonker in that case and have they'd have the last laugh that you backed down.
I heard today that from a family member that her brother in law died last week when hiking on a hazardous peak. He left his wife and eight year daughter behind.
Lost both my parents in their late 70s. That sort of age as with your relatives is OK as I see it as they were able to live life to full and had what I would term as a full life. It's when someone dies in their 20s, all the way up to their 50s that upsets me. Seen a fair number of friends and relatives who have gone in that age range and that really is gutting.
And I would hope I would make the effort if the beef was something trivial long yonder.
Especially if it involve nephews and nieces not seeing uncles and aunts, grandchildren not seeing grandparents, theirs is not the problem but they are the ones suffering.
As per, may not be recripicocated, but the effort has been made. Not a case of having the higher moral ground IMO, just a decent thing to do.
As per again, seen too many situations where at end of life, families are divided, will not go into the see the relative together so alternate viisits, issues with next of kin v others, causes staff to tread on eggshells and is all just so sad.
If a more complex reason for the dynamics, it is tried to deal with as best as can.